A younger friend of mine told me that with new technology I could have a baby in my 50s. Indeed, I researched the topic and I COULD have a baby now!My husband and I tried desperately to have a baby for four years (in the 70s); however, it was not to be ... :o(
He has immature sperm -- lots of them, but immature. The doctors told us there was nothing they could do for us. So we went through the process of adopting our family. We eventually had five children come to our home -- three singletons and twins.
When my friend talked to me about having a baby it sounded good. They can now take my husband's sperm and make it mature, then take eggs from me and join them in vitro. Then doctors would put that embryo (or nowadays many embryos) into my womb. I've always wanted to actually have a baby grow inside me. But -- a baby in my 50s?
I started thinking what it would be like for my child being 20 and me being 75 years old and my husband being 77. How fair is that to a child of 20? My friend who told me about new technology never had normal teenage years. She was taking care of her old parents, both of whom died before she was 25. She cared for them through sickness and Alzeihmer's. Do I want that for my child?
I have grandchildren who will grow up with all this new fertility technology and when they're in their 20s and 30s they can have babies even if they have no sperm, immature sperm, infertile eggs, etc. It's miraculous what the medical establishment can do these days.
After a lot of thought, I decided it wouldn't be fair to a baby born to me this late in my life. I've decided to be content and satisfied with what I do have. I'll enjoy the youngest generation as a grandmother. I'll enjoy my kids as a mom. I'll help and support new families and their children. That is something the medical doctors and researchers can't really do -- give old-fashioned support to the new generation.
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