5 Adopted Kids & Family Experiences

I stayed home with my kids instead of working outside the home for most of their lives. That was a requirement for adoption when we adopted.

First, we adopted twin boys. That was in 1976 and they were 2 1/2 weeks old. Two beautiful babies, but hurt by their biological mother who used alcohol and drugs when she was pregnant. Two beautiful babies who caused awful disruption in our home and are still struggling to cope with life today. They're 28 years old now.

Second, in 1979, we adopted another boy. He was 3 1/2 weeks old. Oh! How his mother must have wanted him to have a good life. She kept herself healthy and he was born healthy. He has been a delight to have all his life. He turned 26 years old in January.

We had our three boys for eight years and then, in 1985, along came a 7-year old girl who needed a home. She turned eight 2 weeks after we got her. She turns 28 in March. She was very unhappy and manipulative. We tried our best to help her gain a sense of belonging to our family. She always felt abandoned. She was taken away from her mother when she was 3, stayed in a foster home for a year, was adopted to another family for five years, and when the adoption broke down, she came to us. They left her at Social Services, after telling her they'd be right back.

Two years later we adopted her older half sister. She was 11, almost 12 years old -- she just turned 30 years old. She'd been abused at her biological mother's home, abused by foster families, and she'd been adopted by the same family as her sister. There was no getting close to her. She wasn't going to love anyone again. She'd abandon us before that happened ... and she did.

All three boys are still around us often. One is married to a beautiful wife and has 2 girls (2 and 6 months). The twins aren't married yet. One has a spouse he's been with for 3 years.

The two girls don't want to be in touch, and it's sad and it breaks my heart, but it's just better if we leave it that way -- until they can sort things out in their heads.

What I've Learned

I chose the topic of baby names for my website, because so many people on the internet are looking for baby names. I love babies and I know about baby names -- names are necessary!

I also know what is necessary for babies and kids -- what parents should teach them, how to encourage them, how to live with disabilities. I have lots of experience with ADHD, Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD), and depression (including bi-polar).

I also know what's nice for babies. All these cool things that are available for babies now are marvelous.

I know what it feels like to adopt your children. I know about specific problems in raising adopted children.

I know what it's like to lose health because of the stresses in life ... and then survive and thrive.

So, Perfect Baby Names is only the beginning. There are so many people I can help through websites on the internet. I'm grateful I live in an age where I can help people around the globe.

If you need to talk about your experiences with adoption, or children, or baby names, or ... whatever ... please contact me.

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